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OopsICrappedMyDiaper's avatar

fukkin awesome πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’πŸ’

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Deon Braun's avatar

Brilliant insights. Thank you for sharing this with the world!

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Alexander M Crow's avatar

Good stuff Justin, thanks! I wholeheartedly agree that we are on that edge, that these toxic ways are frantically clawing their way back to the top of a constantly crumbling cliff, even as more and more people realise change isn't just possible, but it is already here.

I am (actively) hopeful that this change, which you rightly point out centres around an outmoded and outdated way of being rapidly collapsing, will carry us and our world into a new (and old) relationship with each other, and all nature around us. Thanks again.

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Joseph L. Wiess's avatar

Men have always had emotions. We just know the time and place to show them. In the public eye isn't the place to break down and cry, weep, or gnash teeth. When you are with close friends and family, that's the time.

Any man that tells you he doesn't feel fear is either a fool or liar. Fear is what keep you alive.

Being a man means taking that fear and using it, cautiously, to survive.

Fear leads to concern, which man uses to protect his family.

Too many men to day are blind and deaf and have closed themselves off to fear.

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MXTM (a.k.a.: vjtsu)'s avatar

Well crafted. What about the weed man?

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Justin McAffee's avatar

Nah, he’s cool.

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Marick Payton's avatar

Best and most beautifully expressed essay I have read on this subject, Justin. Will share with family and FB friends. Hope Google Translate can do a decent job on it to share with Spanish speaking friends, as well.

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Justin McAffee's avatar

Thanks Marick. A lot of thought went into this, trying to unpack things for myself. That’s usually where the good stuff comes out. Cheers.

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Marick Payton's avatar

Happy to report that Google did a great job translating this essay into Spanish. I will be sharing it with a friend who leads men's groups in that language.

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Peter d'Errico's avatar

"soften into strength"... encapsulates this thoughtful post!!

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Owen Annicchiarico's avatar

Thank you so much for this message!

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Fredd Gunter's avatar

Exactly. I worked at a temporary at Brown and Williamson Tobacco. The machines controlled the space with horrible noise; the operators constantly repairing the breakdowns and some working twelve hour shifts. One group of workers were Amish neatly wearing the company skirts required by them. Pay was king, God was second. Is this how we all are?

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